On Thursday, January 30, we marked the completion of our $2 million dollar Capital Campaign and building expansion with a joyful Open House celebration.

Over 150 people attended the Open House, including many of the 200 local donors who made the building expansion possible.

During remarks, former Board President Rich Schragger commented on what the building expansion means to ReadyKids and the children and families of Charlottesville.

“What’s fabulous about this building is that it expands the capacity to do the work we do,” said Schragger. “It’s incredibly important work that you cannot do wholesale, it’s retail. One kid at a time, one therapy session at a time, one training at a time.”

Room to Grow

From 2012 to 2019, ReadyKids more than doubled the number of kids, families and early childhood educators we work with from 4,204 to 9,152. However, we knew there were more kids that needed the critical counseling, family support and early childhood improvement opportunities we provide. To reach the kids that need ReadyKids most, increasing building capacity was a critical next step.

The 13,000-square-foot expanded building at 1000 E. High St. allows ReadyKids to address the growing demand for programming. The improved space includes new individual and team offices, a larger waiting room, a new community training room that sits 75 and space for future expansion.

“This is the first time in a very long time that the people who are guests who come to this building can actually fit in the space we have for them,” said ReadyKids Executive Director Jacki Bryant. “We’ve had people being crowded and sitting on the floor and hanging out in the entryway. In this space, they don’t have to do that anymore.”

Natural Expansion

Bryant also commented on how Governor Northam’s new budget proposes more money for Early Childhood, and several other funding sources have allowed ReadyKids to expand naturally.

“We had two funding sources come through that wanted to help us eliminate our counseling waiting list. We could only accept those dollars because this space was here for us to be able to do that,” said Bryant.

ReadyKids’ 53 staff members will now have more capacity to meet local demand for no-cost support programs that improve the lives of children thanks to the generosity of our Board and donors.

“We are so proud to find ourselves as an organization that is worthy of your support,” said Bryant. “We will work every day for this community, and for you who have the confidence in us to make it happen.”

None of this would have been possible without community members like you. We are grateful. Thank you.

upstairs building expansion

Take a look at this map of the upstairs of our building, showing off the new areas and how they benefit ReadyKids’ expanded programming.

downstairs building expansion

Downstairs even more programs benefit from more office space and training areas.

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Latina mom kissing a baby Infants cry. A lot. They have no other way to communicate, and no skills to calm themselves down. When they cry, they need the soothing presence of caretakers to help them manage their feelings. They calm by experiencing their caretaker’s voice tone and warm physical contact, being stroked and gently rocked, and having their physical needs attended to. From a developmental perspective, effective parenting of young children is a process of co-regulation.


According to Dr. Arielle Schwartz, co-regulation is where one person’s nervous system interacts with another person’s nervous system in a way that makes both people calmer and healthier. Neuroscience also shows that teens and adults who did not receive reliable, comforting care as young children are far more likely to have difficulty regulating their emotions in adulthood . Simply put, the ability to calm down is a skill people learn in infancy. By rocking, singing and soothing, a caretaker or parent teaches a child how to manage times of stress.

Among the many skills the ReadyKids Healthy Families program teaches new parents, co-regulation is among them. Healthy Families Support Workers visit weekly with new moms teaching them about healthy infant development and providing resources to decrease family stress. But what if the parent or caretaker is stressed? How can they soothe a baby if they are already overwhelmed before the baby starts crying?


Karolina with two children on her lap Maria Lopez-Carbajal, our Spanish-speaking Family Support Worker, notes that the immigrant families she works with face multiple stressors – leaving a dangerous home, dealing with uncertain immigration status, and fear of displacement.

“One mom I was working with was living in a neighborhood in El Salvador where murders were happening every night,” said Lopez-Carbajal. “They would wake up and a body would be outside her door. Her daughters were being threatened with kidnapping. Gangs are recruiting children to fight. No one was on the streets because it was too unsafe, there was no food for long stretches.”

The family decided to walk from El Salvador, traversing all of Mexico, to cross the border into the United States to declare asylum. Asylum cases sit in “limbo” for years, sometimes decades.

“The courts are so backed up,” said Lopez-Carbajal. “Out of the families I have on my caseload who are awaiting asylum, none of them have actually had their cases heard in court. Some have been waiting five or six years. It’s expensive. Lawyer fees and paper filing fees can be thousands of dollars. Immigration lawyers are all overbooked.”

Lopez-Carbajal sees how the daily stress and fear of immigration difficulties effect a Latina mother’s parenting.

“It’s hard because I’m there for child development, but the mom is overwhelmed with fear and can’t concentrate on anything else,” she said. “Parents are so afraid, they cannot focus on what their kids need.”


When this happens, Lopez-Carbajal does exactly what she’s helping the new moms learn to do with their babies. She co-regulates. She stops what she’s doing and soothes the mom’s emotions.

“I drop my plan and focus on their immediate needs,” said Lopez-Carbajal. “I provide them with resources about their rights or discuss their anxiety. We focus on what the child needs, and talk them through options to get what they need so they can help their child.”

By the time Lopez-Carbajal leaves, she has prepared the mom with resources and a sense of calm to co-regulate her own baby until the next weekly home visit.

The need for co-regulation continues throughout our lives. In times of crisis, the support and soothing presence of people who care about us help manage troublesome emotions. The small infant is totally reliant on caregivers and has many crises each day. But even adults need external soothing and support to get through periods of high stress. That’s what Family Support Workers like Maria do. Calm. Soothe. Co-regulate.

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ReadyKids Celebrates Hispanic Heritage Month
Hispanic Heritage Month runs from Sept. 15 to Oct. 15. It celebrates the long and important presence of people in the United States whose ancestry can be traced back to Spain, Mexico, the Carribean, and Central and South America.

At ReadyKids, 16% of our participants are Hispanic or Latino. That’s about 1,440 Latino children, families and early childhood educators in the Charlottesville-area who have been impacted by ReadyKids. We honor them this month by telling their stories. Three stories from three different ReadyKids programs will highlight both the stress and resilience of the Latino community in and around Charlottesville.


Karolina with two children on her lap The first story this month is from ReadySteps’ Bilingual Family Coordinator, Karolina Medina. ReadySteps brings educational playgroups to six of Charlottesville’s most diverse communities to encourage parents as a child’s first and best teacher. For Medina, she identifies with both the stress and the resilience of the greater Latino community with which she works.

Even though she has been in the United States for over 13-years, her parents live in her native country of Venezuela. Venezuela is a once oil-rich country that is now run by a dictator and on the brink of economic collapse. It’s painful to think of her family who is still there.

“In Venezuela no one can find anything they need. It’s frustrating because children are hungry. They’re not going to school. Children who need medical attention in the hospital die, because there isn’t help. No one can save these little ones,” said Medina.

“The only people who are surviving in Venezuela are people with families like mine, with people in the United States who can help. We send them money so they can buy the basics. At this point, even an egg is a luxury in Venezuela. Everything is extremely expensive. How do you live like that? That’s why people are leaving. That’s why people are willing to come by themselves and leave their families behind, so they can send something back to help. But it’s still a separation. It’s very hard. Nothing is easy.”

Latina mom and daughter in ReadySteps group
Even though Medina works hard to support her family in Venezuela, she doesn’t let the struggles of her home country keep her from encouraging and supporting families here in the United States as well.


For Medina, the one thing she feels she can offer to lessen the sense of isolation and fear Latino immigrants experience is a listening ear.

“Having bilingual staff is one of the best things ReadyKids has done to reach out. They help people not feel alone,” said Medina.

“A lot of moms, at least in my case, tell me a lot about their personal lives. They see that someone listens to them and understands them who works with an American agency. The work that we’re doing to let them know what resources they have access to helps.”


With Medina’s work with ReadySteps, she interacts with people from a variety of diverse backgrounds. She has seen that even the English-speaking ReadySteps workers have gotten creative on ways to interact with families who arrive at playgroups with English as a second language.

“They figure out how to communicate,” said Medina. “Working with a little bit of English, and sign language, they figure out how to laugh together. This helps a lot. Laughter helps them grow close to us, and to trust us. They know that they matter, just as they are – with their personality, with their language, with their heritage. They see that ReadyKids is a place that will help their children.”

Hope. Laughter. Companionship. Is there anything else that makes stressful times more bearable? The safe community that ReadySteps creates allows Latino families to be completely themselves, even in the midst of struggles and especially during Hispanic Heritage Month.

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Build Friendship, Find Your Village

A cardboard box turned make believe boat fills Jesse Gandy’s living room. Books and educational toys line every shelf. A pet bullfrog croaks from a terrarium in the dining room. Gandy’s second grade daughter, Austin, recites the staples of a frog diet, and how they use even their eye muscles to swallow insects whole. But it’s Taj, Gandy’s three-year-old son, who lights up when he hears his mom talking about ReadySteps.

“My school!” he says. “I dress up in goggles, like a construction worker!” he blurts out with a mouth filled with animal crackers, pantomiming goggles on his eyes.

The Gandy family moved to Charlottesville from Texas two years ago to work for the International Rescue Committee (IRC). As a family with young kids, they found it hard to build a community as tight as what they had left in Texas. They needed a proverbial village to help them raise their children far away from family. Walking through the halls of the IRC, Gandy saw a poster for ReadySteps.

Now, every Monday and Friday morning at 10 a.m., Jesse and Taj walk the few blocks from their home to the community center at the Greenstone on Fifth housing development for their ReadySteps group. When they arrive, tables in the community center each have a different activity. There is a table of magna-tiles to support color identification and conceptual building skills. Another table filled with squishy moon sand gives kids a unique tactile experience. On the floor is a soft tile floor mat for infants to practice crawling.


Taj Gandy with Mayra Reynolds, a ReadySteps teacher. Most of the other families walking in the door of the community center don’t look like the Gandy family, who is white. There is a woman in a colorful African Kente cloth dress carrying a baby on one hip and a toddler on the other. One petite woman walks in speaking in the quick clip of an Asian language. Her daughter gravitates to the moon sand table to roll out long snakes with her little toddler hands.

“I was glad it was a diverse group of people from all incomes,” said Gandy. “We’ve met a lot of neighbors, and we get together with those people outside of group for play dates. I built a community here far quicker by having ReadySteps right down the street.”

But, ReadySteps isn’t quite a school, as Taj describes. For one thing, it’s free to participants, which can’t be said about most preschools in Charlottesville. For another, parents stay with their kids the entire time. Also, there are five locations throughout Charlottesville, each set up for just a few hours per week and brought from place to place packed tightly into small cargo vans.

“We’re not a preschool, but we’re also not just a meet up or a social hour,” said Shannon Banks, ReadySteps Program Manager. “It’s community building. We’re this hybrid, like a free quasi-co-op preschool. It’s all built on trust and relationships. We have a full curriculum and routine so people can plug in at any location.”


Here’s a statistic that may surprise you. Since the year 2000 there has been a constant and steady rise of mothers exiting the workforce. For low and middle-income households, the reason is usually the same – the high cost of childcare. This year, in the state of Virginia, the average annual cost to send an infant to a year of day care was the same as the average annual cost to send a child to a year of college – around $10,867. For many families, it doesn’t make financial sense for both parents to go back to work during a child’s early years. Which leaves one parent at home – sometimes bored, lonely and on a tight budget.

ReadyKids noticed this trend. Local data showed an average of 225 children entering Charlottesville City and Albemarle County kindergartens were unprepared for school and in need of intervention services. The reason? Not enough kids were attending preschool.

For whatever reason, whether its economics or cultural dissonance, Kids Count data shows that half of 3 and 4-year-olds don’t attend preschool. That percentage has remained unchanged for over a decade. But exposure to other children and different sounds, sights and textures are crucial for little brains. The Center for Disease Control reports that 90% of a child’s brain physical volume develops as early as six years old.

The importance of the first years of a child’s life combined with the growing sense of isolation and loneliness in child-raising prompted ReadyKids to develop a new, innovative program. ReadySteps was born to encourage parents as a child’s first and best teacher through early learning playgroups within their home community.

The ReadySteps vans, filled with educational materials and early childhood toys, visit five neighborhoods around Charlottesville including Southwood, Greenstone on Fifth, Friendship Court, Park’s Edge Apartments and Greer Elementary School. ReadySteps rotates playgroups between these locations on Mondays, Tuesdays, Wednesdays and Fridays from 10 a.m. to noon.


An African-American Mother and Daughter playing a preschool color game. At the Friendship Court ReadySteps group, Renee Cooper can’t decide what’s the best part because “it’s all great.” She and her 4-year-old son Clayton started coming to ReadySteps groups five months ago after their doctor recommended it because Clayton had a speech delay.

“He loves it here,” said Cooper. “He’s grown a lot.”

Clayton, who is an only child, began making friends – something he had never done before.

“At first he would cry when he was around other people,” said Cooper. “Now he asks every day to come here.”

Cooper was proud to share that Clayton had gotten into Clark Elementary School’s 4-year-old preschool program and would start there in the fall, thanks to the help of ReadySteps staff who helped them apply and figure out enrollment forms.

Each ReadySteps group is staffed with two professional early childhood educators, a family coordinator and evidence-based early education materials. But, in talking to ReadySteps participants, it’s not the educational components that they value. It’s the other parents.

“The relationships that are formed through the ReadySteps playgroups are the foundation of the community we build,” said Margot Pleasants, a ReadySteps Group Leader. “These relationships are the backbone of any community, and facilitating them is the reason ReadySteps exists.”


Back at the Gandy home, Taj Gandy wrinkles his nose deep in thought, and details everything a construction worker wears.
“Glasses … a vest … a helmet,” he says, pointing to different parts of his body.

“In the last six months, I’ve seen his language explode,” said Gandy. “He’s learning how to express himself with other kids and share toys, even if there is a language barrier.”

Gandy says she tells everyone she meets about the ReadySteps groups.

“There really is a need across all incomes for the aspects ReadySteps provides, whether it’s networking with other moms, getting ready for school or just getting out of the house. There’s nothing else like this,” said Gandy.

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One simple shift that can improve your child's mental health this summer
Adapted from a presentation given by Matt Bukowski, MA LPC.

One of the parts of parenting no one quite prepares you for is the sheer number of worries. Are they eating enough? Is the car seat strap positioned correctly? Do we live in a good school district? For parents raising kids today, there is an added worry that previous generations never had to face – are they spending too much time on their phones?

The worries are real and warranted. In the case of smart phone use, more and more studies are linking increased screen time in kids and teens to increases in major depressive episodes and psychological distress. So much so that in 2016, the American Academy of Pediatrics released screen time recommendations for all children.

The APA recommends that children under 2 should almost never have screen time, and children between 2 and 5 should have less than an hour per day. Beyond school age, the APA recommends to “place consistent limits on the time spent using media, and the types of media, and make sure media does not take the place of adequate sleep, physical activity and other behaviors essential to health.”

It’s all a bit overwhelming for parents who just need to get their families through the day. For many, screen time is the carrot that gets kids and parents to complete basic daily tasks. Parents can get the laundry put away, or schedule a doctor’s appointment, or make dinner without interruption by propping their child in front of their favorite show or with the promise of some time on Fortnite. It’s easy. It’s accessible. But, at what cost?

Famous Low-Tech Parents

APA Screen Time Recommendations
Look no further than the tech giants themselves. Most of the people who created the screens our children spend hours looking into, don’t allow their children unlimited access to phones and tablets. Steve Jobs and Bill and Melinda Gates were low-tech parents. They limited screen time. They realized, perhaps before anyone else did, that consumer tech was addictive and possibly harmful to young brains. This is the very thing research is now proving.

Being low tech may be great for Jobs and Gates, who can afford housekeepers and nannies, but it doesn’t help the average modern parent’s dilemma of how to get the laundry done without a toddler meltdown. Or make that phone call? Or boil some water for spaghetti? What do those of us who don’t have extra help on hand do?

Switch it up for better mental health

There’s actually a cheap and easy solution, but it might be a hard sell for the kid who loves Minecraft. Research about child brain development points toward what our grandparents knew to be true – send kids outside. Sit on the front porch and make that phone call while they play hopscotch. Open the window and watch them in the backyard while you fold the laundry. Or, if you live in an area without easy access to green space, take a daily walk before bedtime, get the family some free bikes to ride to a park, or sign your kids up for free swim lessons.

Humans are meant to be outside. Green space, the fractal patterns of nature and the sounds of the wind in the trees have the opposite effect on the brain that screens do. While video games and social media give brains increasingly exciting rewards, nature calms a growing brain. And what do parents want more than calm?

In the short term, changing behaviors and family patterns away from the easy solutions of technology and toward more nature-based and lower-tech play may cause complaining. But, kids are adaptable. After they realize you are not changing your screen time limits, they will find a way to deal.

In the long term, the greater benefit is that your child’s brain develops with healthier adaptations. Instead of seeking greater and greater rewards, they will learn the skills of empathy, creativity and imagination that no computer or artificial intelligence in the future will be able to replace.

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Hope for Kids with Incarcerated Dads

James* was five-years-old when his dad was arrested and sent to the Albemarle Regional jail. James went to live with his grandmother. Five-year-olds are high energy and a bit rambunctious. However, over the course of a few weeks it became evident to his grandmother that James’ increasingly loud outbursts and frenetic body movements were beyond what was deemed ‘normal’ for his age. James missed his father. He had no words to describe the feelings within him, so they came out in other ways.


Child Welfare experts have long known anecdotally that the shame and separation of having an incarcerated parent affects a child’s development and behavior. In 1998, they got proof. The release of a now famous study referred to as the “ACEs Study” detailed how ten different Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs) were linked to poor physical and mental health outcomes in adulthood. Nestled among the more cited ACEs like child abuse or neglect was having a family member in prison.

Children affected by incarceration are a vulnerable population. Often they are living in poverty. Also, because 92% of incarcerated parents are fathers, they live with either a single mother, a relative or in the foster care system. They are, more often than not, black. One in 9 African-American children have a parent in prison, compared to one in 57 white children. The feelings of abandonment when a parent is incarcerated harm a child’s developing brain. It changes how they respond to stress and damages their immune systems so profoundly that the effects show up decades later .


It can feel very “gloom and doom”. Like, these children are stuck in a societal pattern that’s impossible to reverse. But, it’s not true. The best treatment to combat Adverse Child Experiences is strong relationships with competent parents. How do we strengthen the relationships of children affected by incarceration? How do we make incarcerated parents more competent at parenting upon their release? This is how ReadyKids opens the door to bright futures for these children.

In 2007, ReadyKids created a program called REAL Dads aimed at coaching incarcerated fathers to have Responsible, Empowered, Available and Loving relationships with their kids. It was, and still is, the only evidence-based fatherhood program in the Charlottesville-area.

“I think often we think father’s programs are just about the father,” said Eddie Harris, Fatherhood Specialist with REAL Dads. “We’re approaching it from the perspective that the most important and valuable asset is the family. When a parent gets help, it helps the whole family.”

REAL Dads focuses on providing parenting classes to men who were incarcerated, or newly out of incarceration. Each year, REAL Dads works with 6 fathers in the Charlottesville-Albemarle Regional jail in a weekly fatherhood group. Outside of the jail, Harris works with approximately 30 fathers recently released from jail or estranged from their children for another reason.


Hope for Kids with Incarcerated Dads

In 2017, a growing body of research began to support the use of contact visits between incarcerated fathers and their children. A child who not only visits their parent in jail or prison, but is able to have quality time with them, has improved outcomes. Usually when children visit a parent in jail or prison, they are confined to a crowded, loud visiting room. Or, they must talk through a plexiglass wall. REAL Dads worked closely with the regional jail to begin twice-yearly contact visits, where fathers and their children can be together in a quiet, supervised space for special family time. Last year, 11 children in Charlottesville were able to play games, get hugs and spend quality time with their incarcerated fathers.

The visits make a difference.

“The look and smile on my son’s face as he ran up to me with a huge hug, really made me feel good,” said one REAL Dads participant. “He talked about how he beat me in the board games for days after it.”

The greater research backs up this particular REAL Dads’ experience. Contact visits are vital to a child’s mental health. According to the Urban Institute, “Spending time together as a family through play, conversation, or sharing a meal can help mitigate children’s feelings of abandonment and anxiety.” What’s more, children who continue to stay in touch with their parent in prison exhibit fewer disruptive and anxious behaviors. There is also evidence that contact visits helps lower recidivism rates for the parents.


One REAL Dads participant held his infant daughter for the first time in a contact visit two years ago.

“I had so many different thoughts going through my head, just finally getting the chance to touch my first born child,” he said. “The whole day after the visit I was day-dreaming about her growing up and what type of environment I wanted her raised in … I really wanted to change my own way of living.”

As for James, a visit with his dad in jail changed him for the better.

“I spoke to my mom and she says she wishes she could have a monthly contact visit, because she actually can see the difference in his behavior after each visit,” said James’ dad. “He starts the week off telling everyone what we did, that he has to be good and so does daddy so he can have class with me at ‘Big Boy Timeout.’ I am able to feel a little better knowing I am giving 100% to give him all that I can and I will continue to do so.”


To learn more about REAL Dads visit the REAL Dads website. Also, there are several ways you can support REAL Dads this weekend! Random Row Brewing is hosting a Fathers’ Eve Event on Saturday, June 15 from 6 to 10 p.m. to celebrate the “brotherhood of fatherhood.” Proceeds go towards our REAL Dads program. Then, on Sunday, June 16, Craft Cville will support the important work of the REAL Dads program at Ready Kids with an event at Castle Hill Cider from 11 a.m. to 4 p.m. Join us for either event this Father’s day weekend!

Or, you can make a donation in honor of your dad this Father’s day by visiting our donation page. Happy Father’s Day!

* Name is changed to protect confidentiality

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3 things mom actually wants for mother's day

Mother’s Day is on Sunday. This is your chance to show your Mom or partner how much you appreciate her work as a parent!

What gift or gesture can possibly show how much you appreciate her? Hint, probably not flowers. A recent survey from Retail Me Not, showed that only 28 percent of mothers wanted flowers. So what do moms want?

Lucky for you, our Family Support Workers from our Healthy Families program are offering their best advice. The Healthy Families program at ReadyKids fosters nurturing family relationships for pregnant moms and safe environments for young children. Last year they helped over 74 moms adjust to the role of motherhood.

In terms of experts on motherhood and child-rearing, they know their stuff! Here are their top three Mother’s Day gift suggestions from years of experience working with new moms.

  1. A meal they don’t have to shop for, make or clean up
    • “Moms all need a little down time, when they can be themselves without their mom hat on. Having a meal prepared for them is a wonderful gift. Extra points for cleaning up afterwards!” – Sharon Taylor
  2. Help with the Kids
    • “They want more help with the kids. Even watching the kids while she grocery shops can help a mom feel appreciated. It also helps you to know exactly how exhausting childcare is and to value her hard work.” – Becca Mays
  3. Time for self-care
    • “A day of self care! It doesn’t have to be expensive. Allow mom to take a walk around outside for a while by herself, or allow her to catch up on some much needed sleep.” – Samira Khairkawa

Looking for a tangible, last-minute Mother’s Day gift? You can always donate to ReadyKids in her name! A Mother’s Day donation comes with a free card and coloring sheet the kids can give mom, and helps reach other mothers in the Charlottesville area who might not otherwise have support.

This Mother’s Day our Family Support Workers gifted every mom in the Healthy Families program a gift bag of hand lotion, chap stick, nail polish, chocolate and a craft to do with their kids. We wanted to make sure that every Mom felt appreciated on Mother’s Day, even if there wasn’t someone in their life to celebrate them. ReadyKids can’t support these Moms without generous donations from people like you!

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Pinwheels for Prevention. Protecting Kids: It's Everyone's Job
National Child Abuse Prevention Month recognizes the importance of families and communities working together to prevent child abuse and neglect. At ReadyKids, we know that no one becomes a parent with the intent of abusing or neglecting children. Opportunity gaps, trauma and social factors like addiction and mental illness add stress to the already stressful job of parenting.

Nevertheless, in 2018 within the ReadyKids service area there were 4,005 accepted claims of child abuse. Child abuse is a community-wide issue that can only be solved as a community. Therefore, we planted pinwheel gardens during the month of April. The gardens raise awareness of what causes and how to prevent child abuse.

Pinwheel Gardens for Prevention

The pinwheel is a symbol of child abuse awareness for its whimsy and childhood associations. In other words, it is a nationally recognized symbol of the great childhoods we want for all children. At ReadyKids, we work closely with not only kids but parents, caregivers, police and other service providers. Our goal is to create great childhoods by promoting social and emotional well-being.

Girl Blowing Pinwheel In addition, each pinwheel garden has copies of the ReadyKids “Keeping Your Family Strong” pamphlet. These pamphlets educate and support families. Research shows that “protective factors” like having a strong support system and knowing about child development help parents stay more calm in moments of high stress. For instance, a parent that knows that part of two-year-old development is learning to communicate and assert themselves is less likely to erupt when the child screams “no diaper change!” Above all, anything a family can do to build up protective factors will help to prevent child abuse.

ReadyKids placed pinwheel gardens in eleven neighborhoods of Charlottesville. You can find them in the following locations:
Women’s Initiative
Foothills Child Advocacy Center
Region 10
Albemarle Victim Witness Office
Southwood Mobile Home Park
Greer Elementary School
Agnor Hurt Elementary School
Friendship Court Apartments
Apartments at Greenstone on 5th
Park’s Edge Apartments

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Afro-Latino family walking near beach Every family has strengths, and every family faces challenges. When you are under stress — the car breaks down, you or your partner lose a job, a child’s behavior is difficult, or even when the family is experiencing a positive change, such as moving into a new home — sometimes it takes a little extra help to get through the day.

Protective factors are the strengths and resources that families draw on when life gets difficult. Building on these strengths is a proven way to keep the family strong and enhance child well-being. What are your family’s protective factors? What can you do so that when inevitable stress happens, your family stays strong?

Research shows that there are six key protective factors that keep families afloat during stressful times. Here are some simple ways you can build these factors in your own family.

Protective Factor and What It MeansWhat You Can Do
Nurturing and Attachment: Our family shows how much we love each other- Take time at the end of each day to connect with your children with a hug, smile, a song, or a few minutes of listening and talking

- Find ways to engage your children while completing everyday tasks (meals, shopping, driving in the car). Talk about what you are doing, ask them questions, or play simple games (such as “I spy”).
Knowledge of Parenting and Child Development : I know parenting is part natural and part learned. I am always learning new things about raising children and what they can do at different ages. - Explore parenting questions with your family doctor, your child's teacher, family or friends

- Subscribe to a magazine, website, or online newsletter about child development

- Take a parenting class at a local community center, or Region Ten.

- Sit and observe what your child can and cannot do

- Share what you learn with anyone who cares for your child
Social Connections : I have friends, family, and neighbors who help out and provide emotional support.- Participate in neighborhood activities such as potluck dinners, street fairs, picnics or block parties

- Join a playgroup or online support group of parents with children at similar ages

- Find a faith community that welcomes and supports parents
Parental Resilience : I have courage during stress and the ability to bounce back from challenges.- Take quiet time to reenergize: take a bath, write, sing, laugh, play, drink a cup of tea

- Do some physical exercise: walk, stretch, do yoga, lift weights, dance

- Share your feelings with someone you trust

- Surround yourself with people who support you and make you feel good about yourself.
Concrete Supports for Parents: Our family can meet our day-to-day needs, including housing, food, health care, education and counseling. I know where to find help if I need it.- Make a list of people or places to call for support

- Ask the director of your child's school to host a Community Resource Night, so you (and other parents) can see what your community offers.
Social and Emotional Competence of Children: My children know they are loved, feel they belong, and are able to get along with others.- Provide regular routines, especially for young children. Make sure everyone who cares for your child is aware of your routines around mealtimes, naps, and bedtime.

- Talk with your children about how important feelings are.

- Teach and encourage children to solve problems in age-appropriate ways.

Our Family: Write down 3 or more things you would like to do this month to increase protective factors for your children or family.




You did it! Now share the things you would like to do this month with the rest of your family. Can you feel yourself growing stronger already?

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When threats are made against our children in Charlottesville, it is upsetting. Here are some tips to help support your family’s mental health.

Children look to the adults in their lives to understand their world and how to respond, especially during upsetting and traumatic community events. Even children as young as 2 and 3 pick up on family, social, and community stress. Kids are very good at noticing emotional changes in their caregivers, but do not know how to make sense of what is happening on their own. Talking with and supporting your child can help them cope better during this time.

Possible Ways Youth May be Impacted:

  • Media exposure. Children are impacted by what they see, particularly when seeing familiar places as the setting for violence and offensive symbols.
  • Possible Community Violence. The community is trying to prevent and prepare for potential violence.
  • Reawakened community division, including hateful actions and words toward minority groups, can impact children of all ages.

Signs of Stress and Anxiety:

  • Fearfulness: Increased fear, clinginess, and difficulty separating from caregivers.
  • Somatic complaints: headaches, stomachaches, tiredness.
  • Sleep Difficulties: nightmares, trouble falling asleep, or not wanting to sleep in own bed
  • Regression: Acting younger than their age.
  • Changes in Play and Activities: Young children may act out their fears or what they have seen in their play. In older youth, changes in interest in activities or social connections.
  • Trauma History: Youth with a past trauma or exposure to violence, mental health concerns, or special needs may be more vulnerable to the impact of these events.
  • If your child’s behavioral and emotional changes do not begin to improve after a few weeks, you may want to talk with a professional such as a Pediatrician, School Counselor, Spiritual Leader, or Counselor.

Tips for Supporting Kids

  • Set aside time to talk: Find a time when you are calm and not distracted to talk with your child about what is going on. Tell the truth, avoid graphic details, use age-appropriate language, and speak in simple, clear ways.
  • Focus on Listening: Children need to be heard, even when you do not have all of the answers. Ask about their thoughts and feelings, and focus on responding to their questions or concerns.
  • Model positive coping: Monitor your own stress level so that you can be calm and in control around your child. Find healthy ways to cope and express your own emotions when your child is not nearby. If your child wants to talk when you are upset, schedule a later time to follow up when you are ready.
  • Limit Media Exposure: Minimize or restrict TV and social media exposure of graphic and violent content. Talk with your child about what they see, including how older youth engage in social media.
  • Plan positive activities: In difficult times, kids especially need to feel connected and to engage in comforting activities.
  • Reassure Safety: Emphasize ways that adults are keeping them safe, including Helpers in the community, without making unrealistic promises.
  • Maintain normal routines and rules: Consistency and structure provides stability and comfort for kids. Talk with your child ahead of time about schedule changes.
  • Positive Expression of Values and Emotions: Difficult times can provide rich opportunities for sharing your values with your kids. Older youth may benefit from helping activities that allow them to express their values. See back for healthy ways to express emotions.

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