It’s been a rough 10 days for Charlottesville.
If you’re swinging from anger to fear to depression – you’re not alone.
These are common responses to grief.
ReadyKids is here to provide hope and healing for children and families in Charlottesville who are struggling.
Survivors, parents, first responders, therapists and teachers may need extra support following the events of last weekend.
For them our counseling team created a comprehensive list of resources to process the violence we witnessed.

Resources for Survivors

  • Tips for Survivors of a Disaster or Other Traumatic Event: Managing StressThis tip sheet gives stress prevention and management tips for dealing with the effects of trauma, mass violence, or terrorism. Lists tips to relieve stress, describes how to know when to seek professional help, and provides accompanying resources. Also available in Spanish.
  • Coping with Grief after Community Violence – This SAMHSA tip sheet offers introduces some of the signs of grief and anger after an incident of community violence, provides useful information about to how to cope with grief. And offers tips for helping children deal with grief.
  • Effects of traumatic stress after mass violence, terror, or disasterThis National Center for PTSD webpage describes the emotional, cognitive, physical, and interpersonal reactions that disaster survivors may experience and discusses the potentially severe stress symptoms that may lead to lasting PTSD, anxiety disorders, or depression.  Information on how survivors can reduce their risk of psychological difficulties and to recover most effectively from disaster stress is also provided.
  • Media coverage of traumatic events: Research on effectsThe National Center for PTSD presents information on the effects of intense media exposure following a disaster. The website describes the association between watching media coverage of traumatic events and stress symptoms. Guidance for providers who work with children and their parents to avoid retraumatization is also provided.

Resources for Parents

Resources for First Responders (police, E.R. staff, clergy, etc.)

Resources for Therapists

  • Talking to Kids about Discrimination – This document can help parents and other caretakers understand how to broach the topics of
    discrimination and difference with young children.
  • APA Race in America: Tips on Talking with Children About Racism – A brief APA Psychology Today blog about discussing race with children. This was designed for parents and can be used by mental health clinicians.
  • Building resilience to manage indirect exposure to terror – This helpful resource provides information you can use to support preparedness and self-care for play therapists, colleagues, and caregivers. The description from the website reads: “Acts of terror are purposefully designed to scare people and make them fearful for the safety of their community and their loved ones … Taking steps to build resilience — the ability to adapt well to unexpected changes and events — can help people manage distress and uncertainty.” 

Resources for Teachers

  • Teachers—This fact sheet can help parents, caregivers, and teachers recognize and address problems in children and teens affected by a mass casualty event. Readers can learn about signs of stress reactions that are common in young survivors at different ages, how to help children through grief.
  • Teaching Tolerance – The Teaching Tolerance website has lesson plans for students as young as kindergarten that cover bias and social justice.
  • National Association for School Psychologists, Lesson Plan and Resources on Race and Privilege –  From this comprehensive site – “In light of the recent events, we encourage you to access our social justice resources to navigate conversations on race and privilege. As schools reopen nationwide, now is the time to advocate for professional development around this important issue. View our lesson plan for middle and high school students, as well as other resources on implicit bias, racism and prejudice, and more.”
  • NPR Resources for Educators To Use In The Wake Of Charlottesville – An NPR page that lists a number of resources to use in schools to explore and understand the event and related concepts.
  • 10 Children’s Books That Help White Kids Understand What Children of Color Are Up Against – This site has books across age ranges and complexity and provides brief descriptions of the books.
  • Ten Ways to Fight Hate: A Community Response Guide – A guide from the Southern Poverty Law Center that sets out 10 principles for fighting hate in communities. The guide provides information about how to engage with the media, definitions of terms, such as hate crimes and bias incident, and ways to support victims.


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The upcoming Alt Right Rally scheduled for August 12th may be challenging for youth in our community.  For some, it may trigger feelings of stress and fear.  This may include: memories of experiences they’ve had, stories they’ve heard, or worries that are part of their daily life already.

For youth who have not personally experienced racial bias or injustice, they may feel confused or unsettled knowing that this is taking place in a community that otherwise has felt safe to them.  Either way, we are here to help.


Below are some tips and resources that we hope you will find helpful.

  1. Media-coverage can increase fears and anxiety in children, graphic images and stories may be particularly upsetting but also can be a great way to launch conversations about what is happening and how you and your family can be part of a positive solution.
  2. Discuss together what’s happening and reflect on your own experiences and feelings.  Keep an open dialogue and seize opportunities for communication.
  3. Plan time away from the event and coverage of the event.
  4. Make a plan ahead of time about how you’ll respond if you find yourself in a stressful situation or confronted with racial bias/injustice so that if it happens you’ll be ready to respond safely and constructively.
  5. Seek help if you’re struggling or if you feel treated unfairly.  Our teen hotline is available for you 24/7 and we’d be happy to talk about community resources, be a sounding board, or help advocate for change wherever we can.  That number is  434-972-7233.

    Building Tolerance

    Things youth can do to build tolerance:
  • Appreciate their own and others’ cultural values
  • Object to ethnic, racist, and sexist jokes
  • Refrain from labeling people
  • Not judge others, especially for things they have no control over

Adults are integral in providing a positive, healthy example for youth to follow. By being tolerant themselves, they can pass that behavior onto the youth with whom they interact.

Things adults can do to help youth:

  • Educate the community about hate crimes and diversity
  • Making sure that those who work closely with youth (teachers, school administrators, police officers) receive diversity training
  • Help develop constructive activities for youth

Helpful Links!

10 ways youth can engage in activism – While we do not encourage youth in our community to attend the upcoming rally, we do encourage youth to find positive outlets to express their passion for whatever is closest to their hearts.  This link provides some suggestions for safe and constructive ways for youth to make a difference.

Culture and Trauma – This compilation of resources from the National Child Traumatic Stress Network contains several resources useful for increasing cultural awareness, sensitivity and understanding for anyone working with diverse youth and families.

Making Sense of News Stories about Bias and Injustice – This article is aims at helping adults facilitate conversations that will engage youth in a constructive dialogue about what they may be seeing on the news.

Book Suggestions – Books can be a powerful tool for helping youth navigate difficult topics.  This link contains a comprehensive list of suggestions for all ages. 

The Youth Counseling Team at ReadyKids hopes for a safe weekend for all.  Please do not hesitate to reach out if you need additional resources during this stressful time in our community.
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“When I first got pregnant, I was alone. I was completely alone. I didn’t have anybody to turn to. My family’s in New York, so I didn’t know what to do at the time. Through all that, ReadyKids was with me and helped me through that transition. And that helped him and helped us get on the same page to be the little family that we are today. So, really, everything has gone a whole 360 in nine months, which is kind of crazy thinking back at it now.”

“Through everything, ReadyKids was with me!”

– Audrey, Healthy Families Participant.

Did you know that the CDC estimates up to 20% of new moms suffer from postpartum depression?
Our Healthy Families program works closely with expecting and new moms to bring them the support they need in those early years.

We love nothing more than visiting chubby babies like little Charlotte. In fact, it’s what we do! Healthy Families is all about helping pregnant moms and parents of young kids develop healthy family relationships and a safe, enriching home environment. Our Family Support Workers are there to accompany moms like Audrey from before their babies are born, until their little ones head off to Kindergarten.

When Audrey learned she was pregnant, she wasn’t sure she could provide the stable environment her baby would need. Today, at over a year old, her baby is healthy and happy with a strong, stable environment. She’s developmentally right on target (not to mention adorable!)

We work with moms as they transition to motherhood, help them over hurdles, and accompany them through some of life’s most important milestones.

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Wishy Washy Kid 2015Bring your toddlers and preschoolers to Cville Coffee at 10:00 am on Saturday, March 25th for stories, songs, and fun activities! As part of the Virginia Festival of the Book, our Play Partners team will be presenting We’re Going on a Bear Hunt, retold by Michael Rosen and illustrated by Helen Oxenbury. The event is free, so sit back and enjoy a cuppa and watch your kids have fun while learning!

Click here for more info on the Festival of the Book.


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Preschool Graduation!

Good luck to our preschoolers who headed to Kindergarten last week!

Have you heard about the Early Education Task Force, spearheaded by the United Way-TJA? ReadyKids is pleased to be a part of this endeavor, working closely with local preschools, families, and the Task Force to get our community’s kids Ready for School. Check out these links for more information on how this group is making a difference:

United Way-TJA 

Local schools and early childhood services partner –

State grant boosts public private preschool effort –

Move from waiting lists to preschool classrooms –

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